What is a MILITARY Wife? They may look different and each is wonderfully unique, but this they have in common:
-Lots of moving
-Moving some more
-Moving even more
-Moving far from her hometown
-Often moving two cars, three kids and one dog—-all riding with HER of course
-Moving sofas to basements because they won’t go in THIS house
-Moving curtains that won’t fit
-Moving jobs and certifications and professional development hours
-Moving away from friends, moving toward new friends
-Moving her most important luggage; her trunk full of memories
-Often waiting-Waiting, waiting, waiting for housing; waiting for orders; waiting
for deployment; waiting for reunion; waiting for the precious 5 or 10 minute phone call; waiting for that 3 sentence email; waiting for the new curtains to arrive; waiting for him to come home for dinner—-AGAIN!
-They call her ‘military dependent,’ but she knows better
-She can balance a checkbook
-Handle the yard work
-Fix a noisy or overflowing toilet
-She is intimately familiar with drywall, anchors, and toggle bolts
-She can file the taxes, sell a house, buy a car, or set up a move, and all with one Power of Attorney
-She welcomes neighbors that don’t welcome her
-Reinvents her career with every PCS; locates a house in the desert, the arctic, or the deep south and learns to call them all ‘home’
-She MAKES them all home
-She is fiercely IN-dependent
-Military wives are somewhat hasty
-They leap into decorating, leadership, volunteering, career alternatives, churches and friendships
-They don’t have 15 years to get to know people, often just two or three
-Their roots are short but flexible
-They plant annuals for themselves and perennials for those who come after them
-Military wives quickly learn to value each other
-They connect over coffee, rely on the spouse-network, accept offers of friendship and favors and record addresses in pencil
-Military wives have a common bond
-The military wife has a husband unlike other husbands his commitment is unique.
-He doesn’t have a job, he has a ‘mission’ he can’t just decide to quit he’s on-call for his country 24/7 but for you, he’s the most unreliable guy in town!
-His language is foreign
TDY, PCS, OPR, LDO, PSD, ACC, BDU, TAD, EDO
-A military wife is a translator for her family and his.
-She is the long-distance link to keep them informed the glue that holds them together
Military Wife has her moments—-
-She wants to wring his neck, dye his uniform pink, and refuse to move to Siberia, but she pulls herself together.
-Give her a few days, a travel brochure, a long hot bath, a pledge to the flag, and a wedding picture. And she goes. She packs. She moves. She follows.
Why? What for? How come? You may think it is because she has lost her mind. But actually it is because she has lost her heart. It was stolen from her by a man, a man who puts duty first and country first, longs to deploy, who salutes the flag, and whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her Military Husband, and she will remain his Military Wife.
9 thoughts on “The Military Wife–a definition”
ahhh.. very touching! thanks a lot! And I MEAN IT! Im not yet a military wife but I already feel some of your definitions. And honestly, I didnt understand it very clearly until I read this post. And its true, WE LOST OUR HEART and we promised a lifetime commitment no matter what!
with regards to race issue? I HATE IT! Thanks for dropping by. GOD BLESS!
What that is such a great post!
I am going to forward this on to an army’s wife blog I read.
My grandma is a military wife (grampa is a retired AF Colonel) and I don’t think she would have it any other way. She loved the parties they would attend, living on the base, the discounts at the PX. 🙂 The thing she did not like was the moving. But then that gives you friends all over the place, so that’s a nice plus.
I’ve gotta give you kudos, because I do not think I could do it. I’d probably get my husband kicked out of the military with my big mouth. ha ha!
Thanks for the list, it’s interesting to hear what a military wife has to go through.
Military spouses ROCK! I want to be one, but I also want one. 🙂
You put a lump in my throat. My hubby is 20+ yrs Active Duty Army. Our 21 yr old son is 3+ years Active Duty Army. Addresses in pencil made me laugh! 🙂
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Love this! i found out real quick that you can write names in your address book in ink but the addresses & phone numbers have to be in pencil! lol we really are amazing creatures!!!! 🙂
This is so amazing and so true. I’m a new army wife and loving every second of it.
very well said 🙂